We're 30 days away. I'm not exactly feeling "on the brink", but I'm definitely getting there. I'm feeling most stressed over the RSVPs/guest list right now. Less than half of our invited guests responded on their own (i.e. without hassling calls and e-mails from parents or myself and Jacob). What I seem to be discovering is that those who did not RSVP independently are not planning on coming. I guess their thought was, "Well, I don't think I'll go, so I guess I don't have to RSVP". This is NOT what I'm thinking. I'm thinking "I have no idea if we're going to have 60 people or 100 people! Please RSVP.... even if it's a no!" RSVPing 'no' at least let's the bride/host know that you have received the invitation, but will not be able to attend. THEN the bride/host knows how much food and wine to purchase, how many tables/chairs will be needed at the reception hall, and if there is room to invite some more friends.
(I've also been getting a number of "maybes". I hate maybes. People got save the dates back in November... they have KNOWN about this. I find it really infuriating that, 30 days out (and with no unforeseen circumstances), they haven't been able to make a decision. Or, if they have made a decision, aren't making it apparent.)
Jacob and I both come from pretty large families. Our initial invite list was 125 people. Our venue will comfortably hold 100 max (and I think that's still pushing it!), so we didn't have time to invite some friends that we would have liked to. But, we figured that once the "no"s starting rolling in we'd send some more invitations. Now I feel like a schmuck sending out invites 30 days before the wedding. I just hope those who get the last minute invites are understanding... and don't already have something else planned. =(
So, yes, that's my "brink" moment for you today. 30 days out... still much to do (DIY stuff that I've been putting off). This next month is going to be CRA-ZY!
I hear you about the frustration. We also had people who assumed they didn’t have to respond if they weren’t coming, and who we then had a to follow up with. I also had a few people try to give me a “maybe” answer, but I didn’t accept that. LOL. I told them they absolutely had to let me know one way or the other. We were already paying so much money for the wedding, and I wasn’t about to pay a non-refundable meal fee for people who then might not show up. Sometimes, a bride just has to put her foot down.
ReplyDeleteI agree with Bicoastal. Sometimes you just have to put your foot down.
ReplyDeleteToday is me rsvp deadline and you better believe i've started calling people.
Maybe? Seriously?! I wouldn't be accepting that answer either! lol
ReplyDeleteEverything is going to work out in the end! :)
29 over here! I am right with you girly! So exciting!
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